Things You Should Keep in Mind Before Trying Anal Sex

More or less half of all men and women have tried anal sex once in their lifetime, according to the report by a national sexual health survey from Indiana University’s Kinsey Institute. But there is a huge difference between “attempting” and “enjoying” anal sex with your partner.  Lot of people refrain from anal sex due to fear of discomfort or pain  linked with anal sex. Major percentage of first-timers do not experiment it again because discomfort scare them away from trying it again.

Communication

Communication is the most important thing especially if you are trying anal sex for the first time with your partner. It is very crucial to constantly ask for the feedback from your partner during the whole act.

It is essential for a person on a  receiving end to ask his partner to stop in any case of discomfort or pain. It is duty of the other person to listen carefully and changes things ensuring person on the other end is happy with the process.

Set The Mood

A relaxed anus is part and parcel of anal sex. Muscle tension can be your worst enemy during butt sex as it can make it uncomfortable for both of you. It is important to set her mood and create a relaxing environment. You can also ask your sex partner what makes her ready to go!

Clean it Out

When it comes to anal sex , the amount of untidiness it can create is one of the biggest concern for the people considering to try it in their bed. But if your partner had a bowel movement prior to the act, there will likely be quite a less amount of mess to worry about. Meanwhile, you can always use a bulb syringe or perform anal rinse with an enema bag to clean your butt prior to an anal adventure.

Start Slow

It is important to help your partner get used to the process. It is never a good idea to dive in there, dick blazing. Starting slow should be way to go in order to enhance the sexual pleasure of the act.

Lube It Up

Lube and anal sex go hand in hand with each other. It is very important to use lot of lubrication if you want to make anal sex pleasurable. It is because anus does not produce enough lubricant unlike vagina so the more lube you use, the more comfortable anal sex experience can be.

It is very important to really choose the best lube in order to make yourself comfortable. Silicon lube is a better choice than saline-based for anal sex as it is less prone to breakdown.

Be Prepared To Abort And Begin Again

Sex is something that don’t always go as planned but just because of the fact that something did not work well in the past should not refrain you from trying it again. It is crucial for both partners to be patient and open-minded to make it successful.

How to tell him/her that you are not satisfied with your sex life?

They say that conversation is the key to solve problems of any kind. However people should be extra cautious when they have some objections when it comes to their sex life.  

If one of the partners feels dissatisfied with sex life, it is crucial that he or she doesn’t hold that inside and should talk with the partner. But keep in mind that you have to choose the right words and the right time because these are delicate suggestions that can easily make someone mad and irritated.  The most common mistake is to start the conversation right after the problem arises. For example, starting the conversation right after an “unsuccessful” sexual intercourse is wrong. In order to figure out what we are talking about we will provide an example. 

For example, if a man has fast ejaculation (premature ejaculation) and the woman accuse him of being a bad lover, egoist or even say that he has to leave the bed. Instead of that, the woman should calm down, try to understand her partner and solve the problems in a more “diplomatic” way. Because, using angry and aggressive tactics won’t lead to anything good. There is a soft erection treatment that can help men to get a hard erection. The same goes for men who are unsatisfied with the fact that their partner avoids oral sex. Many men choose to attack their partner and even threaten that they can get that type of pleasure from another woman instead of asking directly what the problem is. This is the worst possible approach and you can certainly expect a counter effect and all these things mean that you will remain unsatisfied with your sex life.

If you had wilder sex and different sexual practice with your old partner and you occasionally miss them, don’t talk about that with your current partner. This would be a big mistake that could lead to increased problems in your sex life. Instead of talking about your previous experiences, try to practice some sexual experiments with your partner. This is especially good idea in cases when your new partner is more restrained compared to your old parent. For example, if the man has practiced regular anal sex with his former partner and can’t have anal sex with his new partner he cannot simply say that he had better sex with his ex. Instead of that, he can openly talk about his sexual desire before he and his partner have sex. Men are even more frustrated when their woman mentions good sex and ex partner in the same sentence. Discussions in which we mention our ex partners are very sensitive and this is why it is better to avoid mentioning these persons especially when you talk about sex.

So, should partners lie to each other even if their sex is bad? Well, after the sex it’s better to say that sex was good even if it wasn’t because these moments are special. But feel free to mention some aspects of the sex life and sexual practice that you find unpleasant when you are talking about some other things after you had sex. 

How to avoid infections during oral sex?

Many people think that oral sex is perfectly safe when it comes to infections and diseases. Although it’s true that oral sex is much safer compared to vaginal and anal sex, there are still some rules that need to be respected.

First and foremost, many couples have limited knowledge when we talk about HIV (Human Immunodeficiency Virus) and other sexually transmitted diseases.  They believe that the cause for these diseases is unprotected vaginal sex but they forgot that it is possible to get infected during oral sex too. For example, HIV is transmitted through blood, vaginal discharges and seminal fluids (sperm). Even if you don’t swallow it there is high probability that the seminal fluid will get in touch with some of the bruises or small wounds in the mouth (sores and wounds on gums for example). We have the same situation with vaginal fluids too. Men get in touch with these fluids from the very beginning of the cunnilingus.

As you probably know, even if the man doesn’t ejaculate in the mouth of his partner, there are still high chances that small amounts of seminal fluids will enter his partner’s mouth and this is just enough to transmit some disease if he is already suffering from one. The same goes for vaginal discharges that can be transferred to the penis through the hand. In these cases we can expect fungal infection or genital herpes which can be very unpleasant and in many cases incurable.

Furthermore, even if the man during oral sex decides to ejaculate his semen on the face of his partner there is high risk of infections or diseases if the seminal fluid enters the eyes, because the fluid will be in a direct contact with the mucous membrane of the eyes. We should be very careful with previously mentioned herpes (regardless if it is a genital or classical type of herpes) because it is transmitted through contact. This means that it doesn’t have to enter the blood system in order to get infected. 

  

If you are practicing oral sex with a person that you don’t know well, you should always use a condom. Your penis will be perfectly safe of possible risky saliva or vaginal discharges. The same goes for women who are afraid of possible infections because of sperm discharge inside their mouths, because a condom will fully protect her from infected seminal fluid.

Vaginal protection is available but it’s less practical and it usually comes in a form of polyvinyl chloride barrier placed inside. Both partners want feel the same level of pleasure and the wetness usually plays vital role in the sex act, but it will protect you from possible health threats. Although using some protection might sound like a huge turn off for some sexually active people, there is no reason to be disappointed because nowadays you can find condoms in different flavors while those who prefer polyvinyl solution can spice up the things by using chocolate or jelly.    

Safe Anal Sex

Anal sex can provide great sexual desire and it is no wonder why there are so many people around the world that are practicing anal sex. However, anal sex can sometimes bring some risks so it is always a good idea to read some tips about having safe anal sex.

Although in the past centuries anal sex was considered to be immoral, today this type of sex is no longer a taboo or a type of sex that is practiced rarely. In fact, according to some studies around 25% of women and around 25% of homosexual men are practicing anal sex. Just like any other type of sex, anal sex can result in some sexually transmitted diseases such as Chlamydia proctitis (inflammation of the rectum),  anogenital warts, rectal gonorrhea, fungal infection of the skin around the colon and the anus, inflammation of the skin around the anus caused by herpes simplex virus etc. Therefore, we must be very careful and use appropriate protection.

When it comes to safe anal sex, it is very important to pay attention to the foreplay because very often this is the most risky part of the sexual intercourse. We must be very careful from the moment when the kissing and moisturizing of the anus starts. This is most often the period when one of the partners starts rubbing the penis against the anus and the ejaculate comes in contact with the anus. These secretions can easily enter the colon although the hard erection penis is protected with a condom. That’s why it is always good to apply lubricant by using a finger in and around the opening of the anus. Don’t use regular creams or oils because they can damage the condom and the soft skin on the anus. The best product to use is lubricant based on water.

Those who are infected with a STD should know that most of them are curable but there are certain diseases like HIV infection, which can only be treated in order to lower the symptoms of the disease, to lower the possibility of transmitting the disease and get better quality of life in general.

In some cases people that have practiced anal sex can notice stains of blood after the sex act is finished. These stains are usually caused by inner hemorrhoids or some smaller internal wound. If you feel pain after bowel discharge then we are talking about internal wounds. If there is no pain at all you can relax. In order to avoid such things you should avoid practicing rough anal sex and enjoy a relaxed and gentle sex. If the intercourse is painful it is better to stop and try later when the partner is ready.

If you notice any kind of change around the anus, in the colon, on the glans penis, testicles, inner side of the thighs, on the vagina or inside the vagina, make sure you visit your doctor. All these things can be symptoms of STD. These examinations are a must for all men who are practicing sex with other men as well as for men and women who are having sex with more than one partner.